Things To Text A Friend Who’s Pregnant During Their First Trimester
This is the Best. News. Ever.
OMG, I’m going to be an Auntie!
Do you need me to come over and help you?
I can run errands for you.-+
Have you thrown up today yet?
Thinking of you today. Hope you’re feeling well.
I’m bringing delicious takeout over, and I won’t take no for an answer.
How can I help make things easier for you?
The first trimester is sooo tiring. Make sure to take lots of naps when you can.
What are you craving today? Let’s go get some.
I find it unbelievable that X will have a sibling. Are they happy?.
What to Say to Someone Who’s Pregnant
The best open-ended question to ask after “Congratulations” is “How are you doing?” Keep the attention on the you. Your job is to listen and respond accordingly. If she’s happy, give her, “That’s fantastic. “You’re going to be a great mom, because you’re so…,” with specifics, or “You look really great,” if you’re close. She might ignore it, but it could help her prepare for what lies ahead or serve as a reminder of her strengths. Whether it is the woman’s first or fifth pregnancy, McBain asserts that “kind words are kind words.”
Just rein in your impulse to go on and on. “The assumption is people care what you went through and that they’re interested,” says Dr. Dana Dorfman, psychotherapist in New York City and co-host of the 2 Moms on the Couch podcast. She may not be. Let her steer the conversation. “That’s what women want. They want to be heard, pregnant or not,” Bartlett says. “They want to have space held for them. They don’t want their problems solved.”
You can acknowledge this directly, says Dorfman, by saying, “I know this is a touchy subject, but my intentions are to be supportive. I have my own experiences and some funny stories. Let me know if you want me to share. You can even offer yourself or your partner in exchange for her or her partner if she appears open to it. She might not take any of it, but you’re trying to get the message across that it’s a personal experience and she’s not alone.